Coming from my previous blog, here are more advice for you and your partner so you can deal with infidelity constructively.
Plan on one to two years for your recovery from infidelity. This varies, of course, depending on all the factors.
You will have to find a safe way to share them and work through them, hopefully with your partner.
Don’t forget to look at any responsibility or contribution you may have had to create the whole infidelity situation.
If you absolutely can’t see anything you did, then you may need some help to look more objectively at all the circumstances. It is rare when a relationship issue is totally of one partner’s making.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean he/she doesn’t love you, and isn’t genuinely sorry.
Maybe like you have never experienced extremely intense and chaotic feelings before.
It is not constructive to “dump” or “vent” these feelings in unstructured and uncontrolled ways with your partner. Doing this just makes it feel unsafe for them and less likely that they will be receptive to hearing you and makes you feel, perhaps, out of control.
There are fairly easy ways to structure this such as: “I need 30 minutes of your time this evening to fill you in on some things that have been troubling me today.” Just be sure to keep it to 30 minutes by setting a timer.
Otherwise, you may have to have vent/dump sessions with a counselor/coach and get his/her help in expressing them to your partner so your partner can truly listen.
In some cases, certain therapeutic strategies may be needed, e.g. a joint session facilitated by the coach/counselor or therapist.
This is for your peace of mind. It is also important that you do not ask questions that are not that important to you.
That is to say, only spend limited times talking about the infidelity and then switch to neutral or positive topics.
The journey to healing from infidelity is long and hard. But with the right disposition and people to support you, it will be tough, but you will overcome.
There is a study that shows that couples’ most difficult year in marriage is the seventh year. While this is true and can be backed
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